Slider

Latest In


Can you still be friends with your ex?


A question as old as time, however, no matter how much we Google, it still does not have a definitive answer.

Although, shout out to all those who have had a crack at sharing their solutions on online forums (*cough* Yahoo answers) - Sheila W don't listen to Hbosman, you had some very good points.

I for one have spent many a hour drunk at 3am reading strangers love advice after breaking the no contact rule I vowed to keep. But alas, that drunk text happened, leaving me to sooth myself through the help of anonymous people on the Internet. 

[Which basically meant scrolling through the comments to find the ones which gave me the answer I wanted to hear, and ignoring any others which told me otherwise - SMART DRUNK SABS.]



Anyway, this is all a tangent. 

How I got onto this topic is because I had my Spotify on Charts Top 50 (yeah, yeah I know OH-SO basic). And I came across Justin Bieber's new track with BloodPop (side note: Who the f*ck is that?)

The song, aptly titled 'Friends' hears Justin sing in his angelic voice, asking a former lover, "can we still be friends?" over... and over... and over again.

Case and point: 
Know ur wondering why I been calling 
Like I got ulterior motives 
I know we didn't end this so good 
But u know we had something so good 

So I'm wondering

Can we still be friends 
Can we still be friends
Doesn't have to end
And If it ends  
Can we still be friends



I found that these lyrics posed a few conundrums... 

So, for the sake of this study lets just pretend I'm the ex lady friend of Bieber's (lol in what universe) and let me explain what my initial reaction would be to these phrases.

"I know we didn't end this so good"

Well no shit Sherlock, breakups normally don't end with hugs, rainbows and platonic feelings. 

More to the point, if it did not end well then I'm guessing someone *cough* you, acted like a bit of a dick, in which case SEE YA L8ER. 

Or, if it ended okay-ish, feelings will still be raw, therefore everyone needs space to heal and move on. 

Conclusion: Its probably not a great idea to be friends rn.

"Know you're wondering why I been calling, like I got ulterior motives" 

Firstly, speak bloody properly, it's "I've".

And secondly, haven't got a ulterior motive? HMMMMMM the pessimist in me wants to ask if you are in fact 100% sure you aren't just getting back in touch because you want some sexy time, or need a bit of a ego boost? 

Conclusion: Again, sorry it's a no from me.


"I was wondering bout ur mama" 

SCUUUUUUSE ME? DO NOT BRING MY MOTHER INTO THIS!

Conclusion: Jog on mate. 


Reality check: If you break up, it's for a reason.

Furthermore, life isn't a rerun of '50 days of summer' - it's never 100% amicable, no matter how much you say 'it was a mutual agreement'. That is just a load of bullshit, that we sometimes even lie to ourselves about just to make us feel A-okay (and that is absolutely fine - whatever gets you through). 

The truth:  It doesn't matter how much you say it, your not really fully onboard with sending your old flame back to their free and single life - it's nothing to feel guilty about, its just human nature. 3-year-olds don't want to share their Barbie dolls. Adults don't want to share their lovers (past or present) - it's just a fact, a matter of life.



If you are considering being friends with an ex it's usually because you still hold out hope that you will get back together. Or, even if you don't want to get back together you still want to keep them around or keep an eye on them... 

Neither of which is a good idea.

There's nothing worse than being with your BF/ turn BFF to hear them talk about their latest night out hook up. 

Sure, your exterior will ooze coolness and ease, maybe even a twinge of lad-ness (you know, for extra points just to reassure him YOU ARE SO COOL WITH THIS SITUATION RN).

But inside will be another story of elevated heart rate coupled with a fast sinking feeling. And then, a few minutes later before you can stop yourself you'll be making up some story about how you too went on a messy night out with the gals the other night and ended up 'having fun' *winky face* with a guy called Paolo (and mentally kicking yourself for watching reruns of Friends last night - god dammit).

In reality, if you let all those inward feelings out you would be suggesting margaritas all round a la Ross, and repeatedly saying "I'm fine" in a high pitched voice. [Narrator: She was not fine.] 

Because this, THIS is what being ' 'Friends' ' with an ex too soon does to a person.




 So, I repeat, should you be friends with your ex?

My standpoint remains unless you suddenly find them vastly unattractive - repulsive even, it's best not to be 'just friends' with your ex, at least until some time has passed and you've both moved on. See, those Yahoo answers have taught me a thing or two.





Oh and if you are someone who has a 100% no other ulterior motive ex-turn-friend. WHAT IS YOUR F*CKING SECRET!?

What are your thoughts on the topic? Comment below.


FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM (@YOUNGECCENTRIC) FOR MORE SASSY STYLE UPDATES 


Can you be friends with your ex? An exploration of Justin Bieber's new track

8.21.2017


Can you still be friends with your ex?


A question as old as time, however, no matter how much we Google, it still does not have a definitive answer.

Although, shout out to all those who have had a crack at sharing their solutions on online forums (*cough* Yahoo answers) - Sheila W don't listen to Hbosman, you had some very good points.

I for one have spent many a hour drunk at 3am reading strangers love advice after breaking the no contact rule I vowed to keep. But alas, that drunk text happened, leaving me to sooth myself through the help of anonymous people on the Internet. 

[Which basically meant scrolling through the comments to find the ones which gave me the answer I wanted to hear, and ignoring any others which told me otherwise - SMART DRUNK SABS.]



Anyway, this is all a tangent. 

How I got onto this topic is because I had my Spotify on Charts Top 50 (yeah, yeah I know OH-SO basic). And I came across Justin Bieber's new track with BloodPop (side note: Who the f*ck is that?)

The song, aptly titled 'Friends' hears Justin sing in his angelic voice, asking a former lover, "can we still be friends?" over... and over... and over again.

Case and point: 
Know ur wondering why I been calling 
Like I got ulterior motives 
I know we didn't end this so good 
But u know we had something so good 

So I'm wondering

Can we still be friends 
Can we still be friends
Doesn't have to end
And If it ends  
Can we still be friends



I found that these lyrics posed a few conundrums... 

So, for the sake of this study lets just pretend I'm the ex lady friend of Bieber's (lol in what universe) and let me explain what my initial reaction would be to these phrases.

"I know we didn't end this so good"

Well no shit Sherlock, breakups normally don't end with hugs, rainbows and platonic feelings. 

More to the point, if it did not end well then I'm guessing someone *cough* you, acted like a bit of a dick, in which case SEE YA L8ER. 

Or, if it ended okay-ish, feelings will still be raw, therefore everyone needs space to heal and move on. 

Conclusion: Its probably not a great idea to be friends rn.

"Know you're wondering why I been calling, like I got ulterior motives" 

Firstly, speak bloody properly, it's "I've".

And secondly, haven't got a ulterior motive? HMMMMMM the pessimist in me wants to ask if you are in fact 100% sure you aren't just getting back in touch because you want some sexy time, or need a bit of a ego boost? 

Conclusion: Again, sorry it's a no from me.


"I was wondering bout ur mama" 

SCUUUUUUSE ME? DO NOT BRING MY MOTHER INTO THIS!

Conclusion: Jog on mate. 


Reality check: If you break up, it's for a reason.

Furthermore, life isn't a rerun of '50 days of summer' - it's never 100% amicable, no matter how much you say 'it was a mutual agreement'. That is just a load of bullshit, that we sometimes even lie to ourselves about just to make us feel A-okay (and that is absolutely fine - whatever gets you through). 

The truth:  It doesn't matter how much you say it, your not really fully onboard with sending your old flame back to their free and single life - it's nothing to feel guilty about, its just human nature. 3-year-olds don't want to share their Barbie dolls. Adults don't want to share their lovers (past or present) - it's just a fact, a matter of life.



If you are considering being friends with an ex it's usually because you still hold out hope that you will get back together. Or, even if you don't want to get back together you still want to keep them around or keep an eye on them... 

Neither of which is a good idea.

There's nothing worse than being with your BF/ turn BFF to hear them talk about their latest night out hook up. 

Sure, your exterior will ooze coolness and ease, maybe even a twinge of lad-ness (you know, for extra points just to reassure him YOU ARE SO COOL WITH THIS SITUATION RN).

But inside will be another story of elevated heart rate coupled with a fast sinking feeling. And then, a few minutes later before you can stop yourself you'll be making up some story about how you too went on a messy night out with the gals the other night and ended up 'having fun' *winky face* with a guy called Paolo (and mentally kicking yourself for watching reruns of Friends last night - god dammit).

In reality, if you let all those inward feelings out you would be suggesting margaritas all round a la Ross, and repeatedly saying "I'm fine" in a high pitched voice. [Narrator: She was not fine.] 

Because this, THIS is what being ' 'Friends' ' with an ex too soon does to a person.




 So, I repeat, should you be friends with your ex?

My standpoint remains unless you suddenly find them vastly unattractive - repulsive even, it's best not to be 'just friends' with your ex, at least until some time has passed and you've both moved on. See, those Yahoo answers have taught me a thing or two.





Oh and if you are someone who has a 100% no other ulterior motive ex-turn-friend. WHAT IS YOUR F*CKING SECRET!?

What are your thoughts on the topic? Comment below.


FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM (@YOUNGECCENTRIC) FOR MORE SASSY STYLE UPDATES 



Quite frankly, the last few weeks (for reasons I will not go into on the inter-webs) have been one big fat emotional turd.

For the first time in a long time I felt like a small, helpless and slightly emotionally unstable little pea in the big scary shell of a world. 

At these times in life, and trust me, we all get them, it’s hard to see past that big black hole of helplessness.  

But here's a reminder: We always come out the other end, even if it is after a unknown period of time. 


To add to the various changes partaking in my life at the moment, the other day I also had the joyous experience *sense sarcasm here* of being told that something I fear is one of my biggest weaknesses is in fact very true (well, at least in this one persons opinion). 

GREAT. WELL ISN’T THAT JUST BLOODY MARVELLOUS!!!!!! 

I mean what is one mean’t to do when this happens? Have a little sob? Throw a pity party? Internally scream 'f*ck you' and march off motivated to prove them wrong?

Well….I did all of the above. 

And tell ya what, it did make me feel slightly better - for a few minutes anyway. 


However, it was not enough, so I took some inspiration from Bridget Jones and “chose vodka and Chaka Khan”.  

Although instead of vodka it was prosecco (DUH), but it was in fact Chaka IRL (yes, she’s still alive) as I went to see her at Henley Festival. 

However, I only knew those two songs from Bridget Jones, so as my cousin so eloquently put it, “Chaka Khan? More like sack of sh*t!” 

What can I say? Us Carders have a way with words.

I can only really explain my feelings these past few weeks as, "my confidence being repeatedly punched in the penis":

- Emotionally 
- Personally 
- Professionally 
Like srsly, what other category is there!?

Anyway....

Now I’ve succumbed to the fact that I’m going to have to ride the wave of uncertainty, with a undercurrent of self-doubt for a while. 

However, to quote the Biebs 'Mark My Words', I’m going to ride it out and get myself back up A$AP Rocky (hopefully, maybe.. please someone/ something give me a lifeline). 



So, this is just a little post to remind you (and myself) that if life is not going how you want it to atm, you just need to shake yourself down, and not get down about it, because girl, everyone has to ride a sh*t storm sometimes. 

Just remember: you will come back from this and BOSS IT AT LYFE.


FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM (@YOUNGECCENTRIC) FOR MORE SASSY STYLE UPDATES 



My confidence just keeps on being punched in the penis

8.06.2017


Quite frankly, the last few weeks (for reasons I will not go into on the inter-webs) have been one big fat emotional turd.

For the first time in a long time I felt like a small, helpless and slightly emotionally unstable little pea in the big scary shell of a world. 

At these times in life, and trust me, we all get them, it’s hard to see past that big black hole of helplessness.  

But here's a reminder: We always come out the other end, even if it is after a unknown period of time. 


To add to the various changes partaking in my life at the moment, the other day I also had the joyous experience *sense sarcasm here* of being told that something I fear is one of my biggest weaknesses is in fact very true (well, at least in this one persons opinion). 

GREAT. WELL ISN’T THAT JUST BLOODY MARVELLOUS!!!!!! 

I mean what is one mean’t to do when this happens? Have a little sob? Throw a pity party? Internally scream 'f*ck you' and march off motivated to prove them wrong?

Well….I did all of the above. 

And tell ya what, it did make me feel slightly better - for a few minutes anyway. 


However, it was not enough, so I took some inspiration from Bridget Jones and “chose vodka and Chaka Khan”.  

Although instead of vodka it was prosecco (DUH), but it was in fact Chaka IRL (yes, she’s still alive) as I went to see her at Henley Festival. 

However, I only knew those two songs from Bridget Jones, so as my cousin so eloquently put it, “Chaka Khan? More like sack of sh*t!” 

What can I say? Us Carders have a way with words.

I can only really explain my feelings these past few weeks as, "my confidence being repeatedly punched in the penis":

- Emotionally 
- Personally 
- Professionally 
Like srsly, what other category is there!?

Anyway....

Now I’ve succumbed to the fact that I’m going to have to ride the wave of uncertainty, with a undercurrent of self-doubt for a while. 

However, to quote the Biebs 'Mark My Words', I’m going to ride it out and get myself back up A$AP Rocky (hopefully, maybe.. please someone/ something give me a lifeline). 



So, this is just a little post to remind you (and myself) that if life is not going how you want it to atm, you just need to shake yourself down, and not get down about it, because girl, everyone has to ride a sh*t storm sometimes. 

Just remember: you will come back from this and BOSS IT AT LYFE.


FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM (@YOUNGECCENTRIC) FOR MORE SASSY STYLE UPDATES 



Latest Instagrams

© The Young Eccentric . Design by Fearne.